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| Barrister Chief (Mrs.) Caroline Adeneye with Otunba Dayo Adeneye |
Yesterday, March 23, 2017, Showbiz impresario turned politician and present Ogun State (South West Nigeria)
Commissioner for Information & Strategy, Otunba Dayo Adeneye (D-One) added a year. A small get-together
party was organized in his honor by close friends and associates in Abeokuta, the capital city of Ogun. It
has always been the culture of his pretty and charming wife, Barrister (Mrs.) Caroline Adeneye (Nee
Negbenebor) to organize such shindigs for him before he became a politician.
However, yesterday, even though she pulled her strength to make something
happen, his political friends took the shine off her as they hijacked the
celebration from Mrs. Adeneye and gave
a befitting get-to-together to the effervescent D-One.
Your Africa’s Number 1 Celebrity
Encounter blog, Asabeafrika brings
you one of our exclusive encounters with D-One’s
wife, Barrister Chief (Mrs.) Caroline
Adeneye (Nee Negbenebor) sometimes ago. The Edo State born Investment Attorney and mother
of 3 shared with us some of the secrets of her over two decades relationship
with the Co-founder of Primetime TV
turned Ogun State Commissioner for Information & Strategy. It is a revealing
story of the love between Carole & D-One. You wont read this love story
anywhere except here on Asabeafrika.
Enjoy!
Encounter blog, Asabeafrika brings
you one of our exclusive encounters with D-One’s
wife, Barrister Chief (Mrs.) Caroline
Adeneye (Nee Negbenebor) sometimes ago. The Edo State born Investment Attorney and mother
of 3 shared with us some of the secrets of her over two decades relationship
with the Co-founder of Primetime TV
turned Ogun State Commissioner for Information & Strategy. It is a revealing
story of the love between Carole & D-One. You wont read this love story
anywhere except here on Asabeafrika.
Enjoy!
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Your husband often says he is proud to address
you as his life partner. How do you feel about this?
you as his life partner. How do you feel about this?
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I feel very
wonderful and I will say there is nothing more than your husband appreciating
you and saying it at any given time. Saying what you mean to him and how he
sees you, that goes a long way. We as women, don’t ask for much. We only ask
for the commitment and the assurance from our husbands; that ‘look you mean a lot to me and I love you so much, thank you for tolerating
me’ with that, what else can you ask or wish for?. So, I am very happy and
I am very privileged to be alive by God’s grace to be celebrating with my
husband.
wonderful and I will say there is nothing more than your husband appreciating
you and saying it at any given time. Saying what you mean to him and how he
sees you, that goes a long way. We as women, don’t ask for much. We only ask
for the commitment and the assurance from our husbands; that ‘look you mean a lot to me and I love you so much, thank you for tolerating
me’ with that, what else can you ask or wish for?. So, I am very happy and
I am very privileged to be alive by God’s grace to be celebrating with my
husband.
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| Madam and her loving kids helps Oga to cut his birthday cake as guests looked on |
I have discovered that your husband
has this habit of describing you as his pillar which majority of men find
difficult to say about their wives? Why do you think he does that?
has this habit of describing you as his pillar which majority of men find
difficult to say about their wives? Why do you think he does that?
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| Madam with Shipping Magnate, Dr. Taiwo Afolabi and other dignitaries celebrating D-One her Love |
Thanks for
noticing that aspect of my husband. But even though he says I am a strong force
in his life I don’t think I am that force really. God is the force behind our
union. He is the ultimate force for the career of my husband I am just the
vessel He uses to achieve that grace in D-One’s
life. Of course I support my husband 100%. I support him to achieve anything legitimate
that will keep him going strong as the head of the family. I adore him as my
head crown and the patriarch of our family. He is my husband and my role as his
wife is to support him and give him all it takes for him to manage the pressure
of running the home front. I think I am very fulfilled to have been described
that way but ultimately, God is the founding father of our love life. I return
all glory to Him.
noticing that aspect of my husband. But even though he says I am a strong force
in his life I don’t think I am that force really. God is the force behind our
union. He is the ultimate force for the career of my husband I am just the
vessel He uses to achieve that grace in D-One’s
life. Of course I support my husband 100%. I support him to achieve anything legitimate
that will keep him going strong as the head of the family. I adore him as my
head crown and the patriarch of our family. He is my husband and my role as his
wife is to support him and give him all it takes for him to manage the pressure
of running the home front. I think I am very fulfilled to have been described
that way but ultimately, God is the founding father of our love life. I return
all glory to Him.
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| Madam during one of her private birthday shindigs for Oga. With them is Chief Keke Ogungbe & ID Ogungbe |
Your husband is now in politics. Did you supported his dream of going into
politics when he shared it with you and were you not afraid that politics is
dirty?
politics when he shared it with you and were you not afraid that politics is
dirty?
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| Yeye Caroline Adeneye….Always Standing by her husband at all times….Even with the APC broom |
Look, like I
said earlier I will continue to support my husband in any decision he takes if
it is not to rob or steal. If it is to serve his people and add value to his
state and humanity, I am with him. If it is for him to work and serve his family
as the head, I think I will do well supporting him. When he was going into
politics I was the first person he shared the vision with. He didn’t just go
into politics, he was called upon to come and serve by his people and he was
convinced that his presence was needed and severally, during our campaign
activity in Odogbolu, we saw how
people treated us. They treated us like stars, it was like a great homecoming
and I couldn’t believe for a second that a people will so much cherish their
son like that. So, I feel honored being his better half. My husband is a lovable personality and that is one thing that has worked for him so far.
said earlier I will continue to support my husband in any decision he takes if
it is not to rob or steal. If it is to serve his people and add value to his
state and humanity, I am with him. If it is for him to work and serve his family
as the head, I think I will do well supporting him. When he was going into
politics I was the first person he shared the vision with. He didn’t just go
into politics, he was called upon to come and serve by his people and he was
convinced that his presence was needed and severally, during our campaign
activity in Odogbolu, we saw how
people treated us. They treated us like stars, it was like a great homecoming
and I couldn’t believe for a second that a people will so much cherish their
son like that. So, I feel honored being his better half. My husband is a lovable personality and that is one thing that has worked for him so far.
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| The Happy Family of the Adeneyes |
He
is a leader in all ramification; I am his number one fan and anything I can do
to support him, I do. And talking about dirty terrain, politics is not dirty it
is the attitude people bring into it that is dirty. My husband contested for a
position in his constituency and because he respected constituted authority when
he was asked to step down, he did but he was never dirty about it. He continued
to support the party and because of his genuine intention for quality
leadership he was appointed as a member of the Media and Publicity committee
for His Excellency, Governor Amosun.
That alone speaks loud of his philosophy. He has been able to define politics
and changed the perception about how it is being played. And today, he is the
State’s commissioner for Information & Strategy. Politics is not dirty it
is the attitude people bring to it that gives it a negative or positive color.
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| Otunba Dayo Adeneye with his Lagos State Counterpart, Mr. Steve Ayorinde at a shindig |
What do you like about your husband?
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So many
things but I will mention three. My husband is focused, calm and very
forthright. If you give a project to my husband you can be rest assured that he
will do it within the shortest time. He is very, very, very focused. I have
never seen a man like that. And because he is calm, he equally gets on board
before everyone else and signs off earlier than every other person. Then, his
forthrightness marvels me so much. He is sincere to a fault. These are the
qualities I find in him and I think that is the hallmark of his personality. He
is a great man.
things but I will mention three. My husband is focused, calm and very
forthright. If you give a project to my husband you can be rest assured that he
will do it within the shortest time. He is very, very, very focused. I have
never seen a man like that. And because he is calm, he equally gets on board
before everyone else and signs off earlier than every other person. Then, his
forthrightness marvels me so much. He is sincere to a fault. These are the
qualities I find in him and I think that is the hallmark of his personality. He
is a great man.
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What do you dislike about D-One?
(Thought for
a while) He is too strict. My husband is too strict; you can’t be lazy and find
favour with him. His NO is NO and his YES is YES. People don’t know this,
because he keeps his celebrity outlook, people might mistaken him for an anyhow
person but far from it, D-One is
strict and he could just take you to the extreme. He is almost a perfectionist
in everything he does. Most times I am tempted to think that it has to do with
his teaching background. He was a teacher in the US for 7 years and today some of his students run corporations. I
think he has knack for excellence and mediocrity does not sell with him on
board. Maybe because I and and the children are the closest to him, he expects
nothing but excellence from us. He is too strict.
a while) He is too strict. My husband is too strict; you can’t be lazy and find
favour with him. His NO is NO and his YES is YES. People don’t know this,
because he keeps his celebrity outlook, people might mistaken him for an anyhow
person but far from it, D-One is
strict and he could just take you to the extreme. He is almost a perfectionist
in everything he does. Most times I am tempted to think that it has to do with
his teaching background. He was a teacher in the US for 7 years and today some of his students run corporations. I
think he has knack for excellence and mediocrity does not sell with him on
board. Maybe because I and and the children are the closest to him, he expects
nothing but excellence from us. He is too strict.
What other things thrill you about
being his wife?
being his wife?
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I won’t say
anything thrills me or whatever but the only thing with our relationship is
that D-One has taught me how to be
positive and how to manage people. I am a lawyer by profession and most at
times, even though I relate with people more than him but I can easily get put
off if the person does not match my temperament. But my husband was the one who
taught me how to see the positive side of people and maximize it. D-One believes that for every man, no
matter how faulty he is, there is always a better side that one can explore. He
is the one who told me that I should always look out for the 30% goodness in
any human being and should try to use that 30% to nullify the 70% negative. You
know I told you my husband is very calm, he could tolerate you even for a
decade no matter how bad you turn out to be. He has this excellent spirit of
long term correction. If my husband gets off with you, that means you are
terribly bad as a person but even at that, he can tolerate you for a while.
anything thrills me or whatever but the only thing with our relationship is
that D-One has taught me how to be
positive and how to manage people. I am a lawyer by profession and most at
times, even though I relate with people more than him but I can easily get put
off if the person does not match my temperament. But my husband was the one who
taught me how to see the positive side of people and maximize it. D-One believes that for every man, no
matter how faulty he is, there is always a better side that one can explore. He
is the one who told me that I should always look out for the 30% goodness in
any human being and should try to use that 30% to nullify the 70% negative. You
know I told you my husband is very calm, he could tolerate you even for a
decade no matter how bad you turn out to be. He has this excellent spirit of
long term correction. If my husband gets off with you, that means you are
terribly bad as a person but even at that, he can tolerate you for a while.
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| Oga & Madam in a jolly ride laughing spree |
He
is the main assessor when it comes to human relations in our businesses and
normal day life transaction with people. Secondly, my husband is a happy person
by attitude. He is the one who taught me how to make a day positive. He usually
tells me that ‘if you wake up in the
morning and shout or get angry then the entire day may be messy for you’. But
if you wake up with a booming attitude or a happy attitude, the entire day will
turn up happy for you. He strongly believes that everyday is amazing and on
that note, you can make the week amazing, you can make the month amazing, you
can make the year amazing and even you can just make an entire decade amazing. That is him for you.
Are any of the children taking after
him?
him?
Maybe my
first daughter Nicole, she is getting
into the university
first daughter Nicole, she is getting
into the university
(Cuts in) You mean you have a
daughter in the university already, you don’t look it?
daughter in the university already, you don’t look it?
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| The GDA & Madam |
(Laughs
heartily) Thanks. She is science inclined but she is the social prefect in her
school and she is always the one organizing any entertainment event for her
school. She is talented when it comes to entertainment but she is likely to
study medicine. She is also a good photographer but hey, we are in a world
where your hobby can become your passion while your discipline is saved for another day. My
son Bryan is equally interesting,
there was a day he recorded some raps and when his dad returned home, he gave
it to him and the man was just laughing. He laughed and laughed his jaw off
because he was quite surprised. But knowing the kind of father they have, they
are all serious with their studies and even if you want to be in entertainment,
you must study first. Study makes perfect and talent without education could be
lead to violence. My last child Ashley
is a lovely dancer but she asks a lot of question and you will be very
surprised to hear her ask you one or two question. She is very young but hey,
she has it going for her. So, I think all of them took a trait off their
father’s profession. I am proud of them. And at times I come home and they will
just say ‘mummy, listen to this new song
and I will say where did you get this?’
And they will say “Ah, Mum you are
not in town” and I will say “I am in town but I and daddy are looking
for money to pay your school fees and take care of you” and we will laugh
it off. So, there is prospect that these kids have a lot in common with their
father but they are still young to take their own decisions.
heartily) Thanks. She is science inclined but she is the social prefect in her
school and she is always the one organizing any entertainment event for her
school. She is talented when it comes to entertainment but she is likely to
study medicine. She is also a good photographer but hey, we are in a world
where your hobby can become your passion while your discipline is saved for another day. My
son Bryan is equally interesting,
there was a day he recorded some raps and when his dad returned home, he gave
it to him and the man was just laughing. He laughed and laughed his jaw off
because he was quite surprised. But knowing the kind of father they have, they
are all serious with their studies and even if you want to be in entertainment,
you must study first. Study makes perfect and talent without education could be
lead to violence. My last child Ashley
is a lovely dancer but she asks a lot of question and you will be very
surprised to hear her ask you one or two question. She is very young but hey,
she has it going for her. So, I think all of them took a trait off their
father’s profession. I am proud of them. And at times I come home and they will
just say ‘mummy, listen to this new song
and I will say where did you get this?’
And they will say “Ah, Mum you are
not in town” and I will say “I am in town but I and daddy are looking
for money to pay your school fees and take care of you” and we will laugh
it off. So, there is prospect that these kids have a lot in common with their
father but they are still young to take their own decisions.
Despite the fact that your husband is
a very popular face, you are hardly known to be his wife, why?
a very popular face, you are hardly known to be his wife, why?
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| Chief (Mrs.) Caroline Adeneye with the one who stole her heart (D-One is the One) |
Yes, you are
right but it is because I am more on the quite side, socially. You will never
know this but I can tell you that attitudinally, D-One is more quite than me. I make friends more than Dayo; Dayo is shy and reserved but most people don’t know this, they
often look at the showbiz side of my husband but unfortunately that is his job
and not his personality. For the yearly birthday gigs I usually organize in his
honor, I have to do that because he is my crown, the Bible says our husbands are the crown that adorn our heads. I
celebrate my crown because he is the head of my family. It is not that he
doesn’t celebrate me as well, but because he is more on the public side, if I
send out ten IVs for a party in his honor, I see hundred people turning up.
There was a year we had a peculiar experience. It rained heavily and the
weather was not too friendly, we set up the event for 2pm and the rain fell and
knocked everything down and we thought the event was over because of the kind
of weather we had but by 4pm when the rain stopped I couldn’t believe the
number of people who came in between 4pm and 6pm, the human traffic was heavy.
It was on a Sunday, you wont believe that as at 1am, I had to turn off the
music and I said ‘look, you are all going
to work tomorrow’ and they said ‘no’ ‘we
love D-One, we appreciate him and we
are not in a hurry to stop the party’. For us, we see it as a way of life
and we equally appreciate people who share success with us.
right but it is because I am more on the quite side, socially. You will never
know this but I can tell you that attitudinally, D-One is more quite than me. I make friends more than Dayo; Dayo is shy and reserved but most people don’t know this, they
often look at the showbiz side of my husband but unfortunately that is his job
and not his personality. For the yearly birthday gigs I usually organize in his
honor, I have to do that because he is my crown, the Bible says our husbands are the crown that adorn our heads. I
celebrate my crown because he is the head of my family. It is not that he
doesn’t celebrate me as well, but because he is more on the public side, if I
send out ten IVs for a party in his honor, I see hundred people turning up.
There was a year we had a peculiar experience. It rained heavily and the
weather was not too friendly, we set up the event for 2pm and the rain fell and
knocked everything down and we thought the event was over because of the kind
of weather we had but by 4pm when the rain stopped I couldn’t believe the
number of people who came in between 4pm and 6pm, the human traffic was heavy.
It was on a Sunday, you wont believe that as at 1am, I had to turn off the
music and I said ‘look, you are all going
to work tomorrow’ and they said ‘no’ ‘we
love D-One, we appreciate him and we
are not in a hurry to stop the party’. For us, we see it as a way of life
and we equally appreciate people who share success with us.
Your husband is a very
busy personality and always away for one event or the other, how do you handle
his absence in most cases?
busy personality and always away for one event or the other, how do you handle
his absence in most cases?
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| Barrister Chief (Mrs.) Caroline Adeneye with hubby, Baba Oloye (D-One) |
I think he
is in a better position to answer that question. I think the good thing that
happened to me was that I married Dayo
Adeneye, I didn’t marry D-One. So, we are like a normal
couple. D-One is the showbiz
personality everyone sees and craves for while Dayo Adeneye is my husband and father of my children. We go through
what normal couples go through and we get over things together. Yes, as a family,
we have more of his absence than his presence, it is a bit better now. I remember
when I was having kids, he was not always there. You will discover there is 8
years gap between Nicole and Bryan (Her 1st and 2nd
child). Those days when I go and see my doctor, my doctor will say ‘I don’t know why you are coming here
because your husband is never around’, the
man will say ‘the day you start traveling with your husband you can come back to see me. Stop coming to give
me your money. I am not interested in
your money’. That was what my doctor told me and truth to his word it was
when I traveled with him (D-One) that I got pregnant for Bryan because he was never there. He was always traveling to
cover one event or the other across the world. So, I went with him on that particular
trip because the Doctor said if I don’t go, I should not come back to him; that
I should not say I am not pregnant when my husband is not always there. That is that; and I think in 18 years of
knowing Dayo, I think it is only
once we celebrated valentine together. So, maybe that is why when our birthday
comes, he tries to celebrate it for me in a modest way. Then, I celebrate him
(Yearly) because most times, he is not always around.
is in a better position to answer that question. I think the good thing that
happened to me was that I married Dayo
Adeneye, I didn’t marry D-One. So, we are like a normal
couple. D-One is the showbiz
personality everyone sees and craves for while Dayo Adeneye is my husband and father of my children. We go through
what normal couples go through and we get over things together. Yes, as a family,
we have more of his absence than his presence, it is a bit better now. I remember
when I was having kids, he was not always there. You will discover there is 8
years gap between Nicole and Bryan (Her 1st and 2nd
child). Those days when I go and see my doctor, my doctor will say ‘I don’t know why you are coming here
because your husband is never around’, the
man will say ‘the day you start traveling with your husband you can come back to see me. Stop coming to give
me your money. I am not interested in
your money’. That was what my doctor told me and truth to his word it was
when I traveled with him (D-One) that I got pregnant for Bryan because he was never there. He was always traveling to
cover one event or the other across the world. So, I went with him on that particular
trip because the Doctor said if I don’t go, I should not come back to him; that
I should not say I am not pregnant when my husband is not always there. That is that; and I think in 18 years of
knowing Dayo, I think it is only
once we celebrated valentine together. So, maybe that is why when our birthday
comes, he tries to celebrate it for me in a modest way. Then, I celebrate him
(Yearly) because most times, he is not always around.
Your husband is a ladies man, how do
you handle women around him? Do you feel bad when you hear tales about women
dying to have him since he is a celebrity?
you handle women around him? Do you feel bad when you hear tales about women
dying to have him since he is a celebrity?
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| Hip-Hop Star, 9ice dazzles Madam & her Husband during a shindig |
No! There is
one thing I have to appreciate my husband for, I have to give kudos to him for
one thing, he respects me and he would not go out of his way to do anything he
knows a woman won’t like to see. But you can also understand that female fans
are crazy, they go all around him and all that. But when we go for public
events and they do their stuff to him, I don’t really care because he is going
home with me. That is the most important thing.
one thing I have to appreciate my husband for, I have to give kudos to him for
one thing, he respects me and he would not go out of his way to do anything he
knows a woman won’t like to see. But you can also understand that female fans
are crazy, they go all around him and all that. But when we go for public
events and they do their stuff to him, I don’t really care because he is going
home with me. That is the most important thing.
Have you ever checked his phone and
you were hit with some crazy text from some Afro-candy ladies saying “Hey, I love
you, can we go out for Coke & Fanta?”
you were hit with some crazy text from some Afro-candy ladies saying “Hey, I love
you, can we go out for Coke & Fanta?”
I don’t
think there is none because my husband knows I don’t have the time, I don’t
check his phone, why should I desire to give myself unnecessary headache? You
check today, you see Bimbo, tomorrow
you see Zainab and next tomorrow you
see Gloria. It is unnecessary; a man
who loves you will do everything necessary to protect his home and like I said,
I give kudos to my husband; he tries to make me happy. He tries to avoid things
that will make me unhappy. So, what else would I ask for? Snooping around? That
means I am not busy.
think there is none because my husband knows I don’t have the time, I don’t
check his phone, why should I desire to give myself unnecessary headache? You
check today, you see Bimbo, tomorrow
you see Zainab and next tomorrow you
see Gloria. It is unnecessary; a man
who loves you will do everything necessary to protect his home and like I said,
I give kudos to my husband; he tries to make me happy. He tries to avoid things
that will make me unhappy. So, what else would I ask for? Snooping around? That
means I am not busy.
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| Bar. Caroline Adeneye, the woman who married Otunba Dayo Adeneye |
What are the benefits of being
D-One’s wife?
D-One’s wife?
Yes, the
goodwill my husband has from the public rubs off on me on many occasion. I
really appreciate it because I feel very great, I feel wonderful and I feel
blessed to be Mrs. Caroline Adeneye because anywhere I go people
favor me, in as much as I try to hide my identity but perhaps by chance,
someone who has seen my face on one magazine or the other is quick to ask, when
I say ‘Caroline Adeneye’ they will
say “Oh, are you D-One’s wife? So why didn’t you let us know earlier? ‘Don’t you
know D-One is our Egbon’ and
before I know it, they will pull me out of the queue and give me an express
attention, what else can someone ask for? So, his good name open doors for me
and I pray God will continue to prosper him and make him fulfill his dreams in
life.
goodwill my husband has from the public rubs off on me on many occasion. I
really appreciate it because I feel very great, I feel wonderful and I feel
blessed to be Mrs. Caroline Adeneye because anywhere I go people
favor me, in as much as I try to hide my identity but perhaps by chance,
someone who has seen my face on one magazine or the other is quick to ask, when
I say ‘Caroline Adeneye’ they will
say “Oh, are you D-One’s wife? So why didn’t you let us know earlier? ‘Don’t you
know D-One is our Egbon’ and
before I know it, they will pull me out of the queue and give me an express
attention, what else can someone ask for? So, his good name open doors for me
and I pray God will continue to prosper him and make him fulfill his dreams in
life.
Despite the fact that you are a
lawyer, you also run Sierra Global
Concept an event management firm, does he feel threatened that you could become
more successful?
lawyer, you also run Sierra Global
Concept an event management firm, does he feel threatened that you could become
more successful?
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| Madam & Her man exchanging smiles at a birthday party for Oga |
Dayo allows
me to grow; he allows me to expand. He allows me to do whatever makes me happy.
If I say I want to do this, he will tell me the way to go about it and all
that. So what else can I ask for in a man? A man who allows his wife to grow,
like he tells me, ‘I don’t care if you
are richer than me, all that matters is that you are still my wife, so why
would I be bothered? Because whatever money you make belongs to the family and
what is life about?’ Life is too short, our biggest priority is to live as
one in truth and with sincerity of purpose. And his prayer is that God should
give me good health to enjoy the benefit of my labor. That has always been my
husband’s wish for me. He is a much secured man without fear of spouse’s
success.
me to grow; he allows me to expand. He allows me to do whatever makes me happy.
If I say I want to do this, he will tell me the way to go about it and all
that. So what else can I ask for in a man? A man who allows his wife to grow,
like he tells me, ‘I don’t care if you
are richer than me, all that matters is that you are still my wife, so why
would I be bothered? Because whatever money you make belongs to the family and
what is life about?’ Life is too short, our biggest priority is to live as
one in truth and with sincerity of purpose. And his prayer is that God should
give me good health to enjoy the benefit of my labor. That has always been my
husband’s wish for me. He is a much secured man without fear of spouse’s
success.
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| The Birthday Cakes for D-One says it all ‘The On-Air-Personality on the Soap Box’ |
You have been married for 18 years
now, so what is the secret of your marriage?
now, so what is the secret of your marriage?
The secret
of a successful marriage life is three things; they are Patience! Patience!!
Patience!!! Those are the three things you need to secure your marriage. My mum
told me this when I was getting married, you know my parent had reservations
for showbiz people, they believe they don’t keep good wives. They don’t keep
good homes and all that. But when I insisted that it was Dayo I want, because they refused to honor our proposal for like
two years and I have had my baby before our marriage. My daughter was almost
two years when we had our marriage because there was resistance from my parent.
But when they finally succumbed and gave their blessings to the union, my mum
said to me ‘daughter, you have to wear a garment of patience because we that are
not even married to people in the public arena, we romance patience not to talk
of people like you who are marrying stars’. So, patience and friendship
matters. When you are friends, you build trust and trust becomes the tripod on
which patience will stand and with patience you will be able to do anything.
Secondly, you must be able to communicate; it is a very powerful weapon for a
successful marriage. But I equally found out that in Africa, majority of the men are not too open for communication.
They think you want to know too much. But I will tell you that whatever your
husband feels you should know, just accept it. Later, he will start opening up
to you, don’t force him because Africa
is a man’s world. It is the west that harbors the opinion that women are
strong. If you want to succeed in your marriage here, you must be very humble
and understand how it works here. You must put upon yourself a permanent garment
of patience so that your marriage can earn a silver jubilee, a golden
jubilee and if possible a diamond jubilee. Patience is the key word and that is
what I tell women of nowadays, don’t even believe what you see in the film or
read in the novel. The one in the film
is film trick and the one in the novel is friction. Reality is different from
film trick or friction. The man you leave your entire life with is not only
your father but your teachers and chief instructor.
of a successful marriage life is three things; they are Patience! Patience!!
Patience!!! Those are the three things you need to secure your marriage. My mum
told me this when I was getting married, you know my parent had reservations
for showbiz people, they believe they don’t keep good wives. They don’t keep
good homes and all that. But when I insisted that it was Dayo I want, because they refused to honor our proposal for like
two years and I have had my baby before our marriage. My daughter was almost
two years when we had our marriage because there was resistance from my parent.
But when they finally succumbed and gave their blessings to the union, my mum
said to me ‘daughter, you have to wear a garment of patience because we that are
not even married to people in the public arena, we romance patience not to talk
of people like you who are marrying stars’. So, patience and friendship
matters. When you are friends, you build trust and trust becomes the tripod on
which patience will stand and with patience you will be able to do anything.
Secondly, you must be able to communicate; it is a very powerful weapon for a
successful marriage. But I equally found out that in Africa, majority of the men are not too open for communication.
They think you want to know too much. But I will tell you that whatever your
husband feels you should know, just accept it. Later, he will start opening up
to you, don’t force him because Africa
is a man’s world. It is the west that harbors the opinion that women are
strong. If you want to succeed in your marriage here, you must be very humble
and understand how it works here. You must put upon yourself a permanent garment
of patience so that your marriage can earn a silver jubilee, a golden
jubilee and if possible a diamond jubilee. Patience is the key word and that is
what I tell women of nowadays, don’t even believe what you see in the film or
read in the novel. The one in the film
is film trick and the one in the novel is friction. Reality is different from
film trick or friction. The man you leave your entire life with is not only
your father but your teachers and chief instructor.
What does style mean to you?
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| Madam & Otunba with the GDA |
My style is
ageless. Style for me is timeless but I won’t kill myself to fit into the
bandwagon. I can wear anything that sits well on me. Of course, the mood of the
occasion comes into reference once in a while. But to me, style should be
timeless not seasonal. I am not a rave of the moment kind of person. I wear
what soothes my mood for the best reason known to me and to the appreciation of
fans and enthusiasts.
ageless. Style for me is timeless but I won’t kill myself to fit into the
bandwagon. I can wear anything that sits well on me. Of course, the mood of the
occasion comes into reference once in a while. But to me, style should be
timeless not seasonal. I am not a rave of the moment kind of person. I wear
what soothes my mood for the best reason known to me and to the appreciation of
fans and enthusiasts.
What are your best fashion
accessories?
accessories?
My shoes
(Laughs) I am not an Imelda Marcos
but I like shoes (Heavy laughter) My shoes speaks well for me and I will only
need to invite you to my shoe rack for you to judge better.
(Laughs) I am not an Imelda Marcos
but I like shoes (Heavy laughter) My shoes speaks well for me and I will only
need to invite you to my shoe rack for you to judge better.
What kind of dress you wont be caught
wearing in the public, maybe to an award ceremony?
wearing in the public, maybe to an award ceremony?
Maybe Bum pants. I used to wear that when I
was much, much younger but today you can’t find me putting on a bum pant either at home or elsewhere. As
an African woman one must protect the
sanctity of one’s womanhood. That is me.
was much, much younger but today you can’t find me putting on a bum pant either at home or elsewhere. As
an African woman one must protect the
sanctity of one’s womanhood. That is me.
You have a role model?
No
What about books?
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| Otunba & Chief Mrs. Dayo & Caroline Adeneye |
My husband
encouraged me to read positive power books and I have several of such books
that I cannot remember the name of my favorite author now but I think I like
the book “Everyday
is a Friday” by Joel Austin. You
know people are always ecstatic when it is Friday
but the Joel Austin said ‘hey, why not
make everyday your own Friday because in the real sense you never can tell
which one will be your last day on earth’. You may never even see the next Friday. So, make every day your Friday. The book has changed so many
things about me. It has given me more energy to be sincerely happy with myself
even in the lowest of moments.
encouraged me to read positive power books and I have several of such books
that I cannot remember the name of my favorite author now but I think I like
the book “Everyday
is a Friday” by Joel Austin. You
know people are always ecstatic when it is Friday
but the Joel Austin said ‘hey, why not
make everyday your own Friday because in the real sense you never can tell
which one will be your last day on earth’. You may never even see the next Friday. So, make every day your Friday. The book has changed so many
things about me. It has given me more energy to be sincerely happy with myself
even in the lowest of moments.
(This blog wishes D-One Long Live
& Prosperity in his new age)
& Prosperity in his new age)
