Why my Second Marriage crashed — Kojo Williams | Reveals secret of boyish look @ 57

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika…’I thought i knew enough of my second woman but she changed’
Kojo Williams is an extra-ordinary Nigerian personality. Gentle. Bold. Cultured.  Well mannered. He is one of the few Nigerians
of the old aristocratic order who still maintains his candor without losing it
to the whims and caprices of a free style society. As the scion of the family
of the highly revered business man and sport icon, Late Chief S.B. Williams, Kojo
is one of those few scions in the world who are able to create their own
personality, living beyond the large shadows of their own father. As a former
Nigerian Football Association boss and ex-CAF
& FIFA board member, Kojo comes with lots of experience in
football and general sports management. He is a rare Sports and Youth
development expert and one talent that have not been espoused well by Nigeria
as a country. Couple of year’s back, the Lagos born Kojo Williams lost his 24 years marriage to first wife, a dentist
in the person of Dr. (Mrs.) Remilekun
Williams
. The marriage which produced four lovely children (Two boys and
two girls) who are now all grown suffered a break and each went their separate
ways. It was none of their making but realities of life beyond their
comprehension made it happen.

Last year, the German trained fire
engineer cum Sports enthusiast had a second marriage with United State of America trained Princess Isidora Adewunmi a second daughter of His Royal Majesty, Oba
Michael Adeniyi
Sonariwo, the Akarigbo of Remo Land in Ogun state-South West Nigeria. The
wedding took place on Thursday May 21st inside Kojo’s massive Victoria Island, Lagos mansion. Princess Isidora Adewunmi, a half caste born by a Jamaican mother, Madam Joyce Adeniyi who is a British trained nurse and first wife
of Oba Sonariwo was all what the
former NFA boss needed to continue his adult life. But the story changed midway
as Isidora, 45 and Kojo, 57 parted ways. In his first ever
exclusive interview after the demise of the marriage, Kojo spoke to your Africa’s number one celebrity encounter blog, Asabeafrika and City People Magazine Publisher, Dr. Seye Kehinde. You
will never read this exclusive elsewhere but first on Asabeafrika. Enjoy!

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika….’I am very quite person, i love reading and i dislike the television’

Why I kept a low profile
Sir, you have been silent in the last
couple of years, what have you been doing  to keep soul and body going?
Well, I have
been doing a lot of things. I have got my businesses. I have got some projects
in some other West African countries. I have got my investment projects in
Europe; I do a lot of stock trades and all that. So, I have been doing my own
business quietly both here and there. I just do my things and I am very happy
with that.
3 dangerous things I don’t do again @
57
What is the secret of Kojo William’s
young looks; even at 57 you are looking quite younger than your age?
No, no, let
me tell you something. If I say it you won’t believe but honestly, it is the
grace of God because without the grace of God I cannot have good health. I
can’t buy health. And I thank God that God is giving me good health and with
the good health I can now take decisions on what to do; I know, ok, look, to
take good care of myself, I have to eat well, I eat fruits more, I have to do
exercise. Without good health I can’t go into the gym and train. I train four
times a week. Intensive training, I kick boxes, I do my weight exercises and
eat light food and I am a contented man. I am not chasing shadows, I am not
going crazy.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika…’I dont drink, i dont smoke and i dont womanize’

I don’t drink alcohol. I stopped drinking Champagne, I love
drinking Champagne, and I stopped drinking my Champagne ten years ago.
I am alcohol free. Without alcohol, everything comes free. So, I don’t drink
alcohol and I don’t womanize. When you do that, it kills you as well. When you
are sleeping around, you are a dead man. So, those things kill. Eat good food;
eat well and engage in good exercise. And your spiritual life is very
important. You have to have a very good communication strategy with your God,
it doesn’t mean you have to start shouting in the street so that everybody
knows you are worshiping God; you are praying and you are disturbing your
neighbor. No, no, that is not worshiping. Your relationship with God is private
and that alone makes you to radiate but the bottom line is His grace because if
you don’t have grace you can’t have the health, you cannot eat, you cannot go
to the gym and do exercise. So, God’s grace is what is keeping me young and I
am very grateful to Him. You can’t buy peace, you can’t buy health and you
can’t buy sleep. I sleep very well, I wake up, I look and I am happy. You can’t
buy joy.

“I am not chasing shadows, I am not
going crazy. I don’t drink alcohol. I stopped drinking Champagne, I love drinking Champagne,
and I stopped drinking my Champagne
ten years ago. I am alcohol free. Without alcohol, everything comes free. So, I
don’t drink alcohol and I don’t womanize”
Kojo Williams with Princess Isidora Adewunmi

Why my 2nd marriage didn’t
work…
Can you share the story of how your
new partner swept you off with love?
My new
partner, that question we have to leave alone because that one is for another
day.
No, no, no, sir. I think it is a new
thing, it is a leadership thing, it is something that will encourage a lot of
young people; a lot of people find themselves in terrible emotional situation
when it comes to marriage and this is a lady that just came into your life last
year…?
My
relationship with the lady has been stunted for a while, so, I am not going to
say more than that.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika…’I do a lot of businesses on the international level. I am not just quite’

But how was she able to arrest your
heart knowing you as a very strong personality who does not suffer fools
gladly?
Well, well,
she had the qualities and she was able to come close but at times you just
found out that, sometimes, women change. I wouldn’t want to say more than that.
Yes, for her to be able to get me, she had her own qualities. But sometimes,
women can be very funny, people change. So, you have to manage them.

“The most important thing is study
your woman very well, study your woman. Spend a longer time, don’t rush into
marriage. Take time, let’s be friends first. Know the mentality, understand her
and take your time. Don’t enjoy the rush. When you say you want to marry,
marriage is a very, very tough institution”

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika…’My Young look is as a result of God’s grace in my life

How to marry a woman by Kojo
Williams…
But why are marriages becoming
short-liven these days, especially among celebrities?
The most
important thing is study your woman very well, study your woman. Spend a longer
time, don’t rush into marriage. Take time, let’s be friends first. Know the
mentality, understand her and take your time. Don’t enjoy the rush. When you
say you want to marry, marriage is a very, very tough institution. First thing
is, be friend with the woman, know that woman very well. Because when you bring
her inside the house, she can change or you too could change. But then if you
are friends, it is a different ball game. First, friends; you could be friends
for years. If you and a woman are friends, you are already there. The point is
to understand each other, when you flick an eye; she understands where you are
coming from, the key is friendship. It is always the opposite here, they marry
for different reasons and when you now get in there, you are not friends. That
is why when they are driving on Sunday, the woman will be looking to the right
and the man will be looking to the left. When they are in church, they will be
looking at different directions. But when you have a friend in her, you
exchange ideas because you are always cracking jokes. You have fun together. You
have to learn how to have fun; it is not just about sleeping with the woman. It
goes beyond that.

A Caricature of Kojo and his family some 24 years ago

Kojo Williams with his first wife & their 4 lovely kids in France 25 years ago

What about raising children?
Raising
children is a fantastic thing, it is great; and in friendship and in love, you
raise your kids; in a very, very, very peaceful environment.
What Dad taught me about women…
What would you say you learn from
your dad in the area of being generous and kind to the women folk?
Yeah, I
learnt a lot from him, he was very good with women. Yeah, he had his own
weaknesses but if you talk about being generous to women, he was extremely
generous to women, not only to women but to everybody. He was a kind soul. He
gave without pain, he loved humanity and in anything you do you have to love
humanity. Of course, you need to love yourself if you don’t love yourself you
can never love humanity. So, all those people that are busy stealing, looting
and hiding, they don’t love themselves because if you love yourself, you give
out, willingly because you exude what is in you, which is the love you give to
people but if you don’t love yourself you can never give back to society. It is
as simple as that; and that is when you look at people and they will say ‘This one should suffer, I am going to make this one suffer’ and
then you become an oppressor. But when you love yourself, that love comes, it
radiates from you and transcend to others.

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika….’Marriage is a very tedious institution’

Can we say you are practically single
now?
Seye!!!
(Shouts the name of City People Publisher who was at the table with this
blogger)
No, we are just trying to guide
against people speculating wrongly in town?
You just
want to hear me say a word? Yes, officially, on paper I am married, is that not
what you want to hear? On paper, I am married.
What about real life?
In real
life, I am not married. I am separated, you want to hear that? Are you happy
with that?

Kojo Williams to Asabeafrika…’I attend parties not for food or drinks but to dance. I love to dance a lot’

Sir, I am confused, you left me more
confused?
That is why
I said I don’t want to talk about it.
Because last year we broke the story
that you re-married (
Both City People & Asabeafrika
broke the story of Kojo Williams’ second marriage
)
Yes, I did.
I did. But it didn’t work, so, it is ok. It happens. But you take the lesson
and you move away with it. Is that what you guys want to hear?
No, sir, we have just learnt
something new about marriage and friendship
It is okay.

Anthony Adekojo Adesegun Williams

Kojo Williams with the GDA by his bar

I don’t do social media but…
You are also somebody who has been
misunderstood over the years…
(Cuts in,
referring to City People Publisher) But you know me very well; I have known you
right before you set up your newspaper. When you were in The News Magazine,
then you will dodge and come at night. So, I have known you or you want me to
also tell you something about you (Laughter)

“I don’t go to party for drinks; I
don’t go to eat, if I am welcomed, I dance. I can dance for forty five minutes
non stop then I go home, have a shower and have a sleep. Socially, I love kids,
I love being around children a lot. So, I spend a lot of time with kids, take
them out, and have fun with them. They are angels; they are fun to be with”

Kojo Williams with the GDA in an earlier encounter

No, no, I am just asking for the sake
of our readers?
So, I am
telling readers too, that I know you; (laughter) so, we have come a long way,
you know the kind of person I am. I am a very simple, very easy going person. I
am very quite. As much as people think that I am an outgoing person. I am very,
very private. Any woman that is around me knows that I am a very private
person. I keep to my mood, yes; I am a bit of an extrovert. I don’t really
party that much but I love dancing. If I go out I dance, I don’t go to club. I
hardly go to parties. But if I go to your party, that person must be very
special to me, and I always dance. I don’t go to party for drinks; I don’t go
to eat, if I am welcomed, I dance. I can dance for forty five minutes non stop
then I go home, have a shower and have a sleep. Socially, I love kids, I love being
around children a lot. So, I spend a lot of time with kids, take them out, and
have fun with them. They are angels, they are fun to be with. I do a lot of
reading, I have time to do my reading, and I am a very private person. I love
my quite time. I have my spiritual connect and I do a lot of reading. I am not
a Television person. For me, television is total distraction, I will rather
spend more time reading and meditating and I am okay. I don’t have so many
friends but I have a lot of acquaintances because when you say somebody is your
friend, that person must be very, very special to you. I have many
acquaintances and I have some people that mean a lot to me. When I say ‘mean a lot to me’ they really mean a
lot to me, those that really mean a lot to you are those that are always with
you in time of trials, they stand by you, those are your true friends. I am not
into any social media; I am not into all this media stuff. So, that is
basically me.

The Sport Administrator with the GDA and Dr. Seye Kehinde of City People Magazine

I am a Rolls Royce Phantom…
Can you say age has equally mellowed
you down?
Yeah, every
time, if there is anything in life that measures you it is age; you will be
very foolish to go on off when you get older. With old age you become a Rolls
Royce.
So, I am a Rolls Royce now, the Yorubas
will say ‘Moto Ayokele’. So, I
just glide. I don’t need to be rough, I am not a Ferrari.  I am a Rolls Royce combined with Bentley;
in fact the Rolls Royce phantom is what I am. So, I am calmer. I don’t make
too much noise. But anybody that comes close to you will enjoy those qualities
you have. With age, with time, you are much calmer but those special attributes
you have will never leave you.

Kojo Williams throws banters with the GDA inside his Lagos Island mansion
Kojo Williams in a rare pose with City People Publisher Dr. Seye Kehinde and Asabeafrika’s Gbenga Dan Asabe
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