|Alhaja Nusirat Temilola Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika…’In marriage, one must be a goat while the other must be a sheep’|
encounter with Alhaja Nusirat Temilola
Olamuyiwa, mother of the world famous art ambassador and celebrated female
talking drummer Aralola Olamuyiwa who
celebrated her 40th birthday last Friday January 23rd continues this morning with the shocking
details of behind-the-scene theatrics that characterized one of Nigeria’s famed
artiste management deal between Aralola (The
artiste) and Atunda Entertainment (The
Company) owned by Ondo state born tourism enthusiast Wanle Akinboboye.
The deal which seems to give all the trappings of
transformation on the surface soon turned into an alleged fraud characterized
with elements of cheat, deceit and outright slavery on the part of the
management company to the artiste.
Series of negative reports soon trailed the relationship between Atunda Entertainment and their
cash-crow Ara as accusations and
counter accusations of bad deals, outright cheating and slavery led to abrupt
crash of the entire deal. It was the biggest
entertainment scandal at the time and the whole mess nosedived into death
threats as Ara had to relocate
abroad to save her life. Ten years down the line, the Enigma Ara has left the memory behind, moving
on and waxing stronger and stronger with her career taking a new shape. But her
mother, who in company with her late dad, a former Executive Director with United
Bank for Africa (UBA) fought the battle of getting their daughter off the queer
deal of Atunda have sad memory of
the entire scenario and that she shared it with us penultimate Wednesday when
this blog met her in her Lagos, South West Nigeria home. Still filled with the
bitter memory of the saga, Mama shared her emotions with Asabeafrika. Read on…..
|Ara, the Enigma doing her stuff at a singing outing while still under Atunda Ent.|
Couple of years ago the story was all
over town about how your family ran into crisis with one Mr. Wanle Akinboboye
of Lacanpagne Tropicana and Atunda Entertainment who took over the
music career of your daughter Ara, can you share with this blog the reason for
the crisis of confidence at the time?
fact it was a big war my son. I don’t know where my daughter met this man, he
only called us one day and we sat together, we spoke on her career with my
husband in attendance (Ara’s father); we invited our own lawyer and he
(Akinboboye) got his own lawyer as well, we both sat and agreed that we the
parent of Ara and he (Wanle) should draft a reasonable agreement that will be
jointly signed on how to run her musical career. After that meeting we didn’t
see his break-light again. He just kept us in the dark and warned my daughter
never to relate with us again. He gave her an accommodation, gave her a car and
even imprisoned her with a battalion of security aides. He did everything to
make her feel secure. So, we became confused and my self and my late husband
tried to reach out to him, we asked ‘are we not going to sign this agreement
again?’ My daughter refused to even listen or relate to us again. If I say I am
coming to see her, she will say she is not at home, ‘ah, ah, you are not at home?’
After like six months that she has been dodging me, one day I called her and
said ‘Daughter, I am coming to see you today’. Again, she told me not to bother
that she has just left her apartment. I
said ‘ok’ then I could still drive very well. So, I jumped into my car and off
I went to her place. When I got there I asked her security aide ‘where is your
madam?’ he said she is inside. When I walked in I met her on the bed sleeping.
I said to her ‘but you told me you have gone out so what is really wrong with
you?’, I went into strong discussion with my daughter as a mother and it was
then she said to me that ‘Wanle said I will not allow her to stay, that I am a witch that I will be disturbing her
career and I wont let her have a steady career. That she should be avoiding me
and must not give me a chance to be with her’.
“On getting home I told my husband,
that ‘Daddy, the devil seems to be interested in this case o, the education we
wanted for her, they have derailed her from it and now she has been imprisoned
from both her education, family and even reality’. I was bitter and disturbed
because she was totally imprisoned and being used as a cash crow for his
husband, that ‘Daddy, the devil seems to be interested in this case o, the
education we wanted for her, they have derailed her from it and now she has
been imprisoned from both her education, family and even reality’. I was bitter
and disturbed because she was totally imprisoned and being used as a cash crow
for his organization. If this man uses my daughter to secure a big show, he
will charge big but give my daughter peanut. He didn’t even allow her to buy a
car by herself; he didn’t allow her to do anything by herself. My daughter Ara got some money at a time and she
went into a car lot to buy a car, this man called her where she was pricing the
car and summoned her back to his office, telling her not to buy the car, that
he will buy her a car, he will give her everything. It was as if it was only
his words that meant life to Ara at
the time; she was not going to listen to even her parent. Of course we called
unto God and He intervened. When the time came, the man she had her only child
for that is the son of the Oworonshoki king, Oba Saliu came around. They have
been lovers from a very tender age. I think he travelled out at a time and he
was father was not yet a king at the time; so he returned from Germany and a
mutual friend re-introduced them. So, when that one now came and found out
about how Wanle locked Ara in from seeing anybody, special
kudos to the guy because he was the one who helped us pull her out of Wanle’s
dungeon. That is her ex-husband, he pulled her out and they both ran out of the
country to Iceland and by then she
was pregnant for him. When she was about to deliver, the moved into America and
she had her baby in America but unfortunately their marriage didn’t end well.
The boy disappointed her…. I don’t want to talk much about him, may God
continue to guide us.
“Her paternal grand dad named her Aralola. His name is Late Chief Sadiq Olamuyiwa, he was the
former Osi Adinni of Central Mosque
Ondo, and he was the one that called her the name “Ara”. He was the one that gave the full name Aralola Sherifat”
Nusirat Temilola Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika…’Ara cant marry her ex
because the man is already engaged with three other women’
So, what are other evidences that
really showed that your daughter was under a spell while with Atunda
son, there were lots of indications that showed that my daughter was not taking
decision on her own volition at the time, it is a very sad memory and I think every
parent should learn from this. I mean how can you, as a mother call your
daughter that you want to see her and she says ‘mum I am out’ and you get to
her place and you find her there, that is when you will know something has gone
wrong. One of the sons of Lisa of Ondo
kingdom, the present king who is on the throne who is equally a friend to Wanle Akinboboye returned from London
at the time and wanted to settle the crisis, my husband extended an invitation
to Wanle Akinboboye yet Wanle shunned my husband. He said he
had no time for us. And my husband
replied and said ‘well, I gave birth to
Ara. She is my child, if you cant honor my invitation to settle a case that
has to do with the destiny of my own daughter then lets leave it all to God,
that was how we took the matter to God in prayers and God indeed intervened.
famous artiste didn’t rub on you as the parent?
(Wanle Akinboboye) will use my daughter’s prestige to get hefty sums of money
in the name of performance, they will pay her huge performance fees like N5
Million or there about and you will give her peanut. You will just dash her
eighty thousand naira or at worst a hundred and fifty thousand naira from her
sweat o… what for?; the money will be valueless and the girl was just secluded
from everything that is reality. The only thing I did was to speak with my God.
It was only God I spoke with and God really manifested His power in my life. I
don’t have any other person to report him (Wanle) to but God Almighty and I
thank God for what He did in the life of my daughter today. He rescued her from
the snare of the fowler.
“Since Ara left him, he has married three different women and raised kids
through them; so, what is my daughter going to do with such a man? If that
didn’t happen or if it was just one, but three women at a stretch and you know
ladies of nowadays are terrible. They are really terrible and can go to any
length to get something done. I can’t advise Ara to go back to him”.
|Wanle Akinboboye, Ara’s ex boss and owner of Atunda Entertainment Ltd|
How will you describe her career after
the Atunda crisis?
know I told you my daughter first left for Iceland,
from there she relocated to America
to have her baby. She later returned back; thanks to well meaning Nigerians and
God Almighty who gave her a new grace. My daughter has since moved on with her
life and her career is doing great. I return all glory to God Almighty.
what will you tell him?
if he greets me I will return his greeting. It is as simple as that.
called you a witch?
I know I am not a witch and I am not troubling my daughter’s career. I knew he
was the evil one at the time and he needed to say that to cover his evil tracks.
How can you snatch a child from her parent and be telling her that her mother
is a witch. Do I look like a witch?
|Alhaja Nusirat Temilola Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika….’I am happy the way God have directed the career of my daughter’|
Not really ma
sarcastically) I know witchcraft is not written on one’s forehead but for God’s
sake I am not one. Wanle only tried
to malign me and God has vindicated me from his malicious wish.
and she is equally having an album listening party on that day, how would you
describe her success story?
must confess that she is a miracle child and how her glory extended to all
corners of the world is solely by God’s grace. It is God that promoted my
daughter. I return all glory to Him.
did as a young girl?
she was studying at the University of Ilorin, she was playing football in the
women league. I warned her not to play ball, I was afraid for her legs. But as
God will justify my concern, she came home one day to narrate how somebody hit
the ball against her eyeball while playing. She said her eyeball thundered with
stars and that was how she stopped playing foot ball till date. I was so happy
because it was my prayer for her to stop it. She came and narrated the
incidence to me and I said ‘good for you’ I have prayed over it that God should
take you out of the game because if they break your leg it will become my own
‘project’ to look after (Laughter)
|Alhaja Nusirat Temilola Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika ‘Ara couldnt even buy a car for herself while at Atunda’)|
Her name Ara was also a source of
controversy at a time as her former boss, Wanle Akinboboye claimed to have
created that name for her?
in) Never, how can he be the one to give a name that was given to my daughter
by her paternal grand father? Her paternal grand dad named her Aralola.
His name is Late Chief Sadiq Olamuyiwa,
he was the former Osi Adinni of Central Mosque Ondo, and he was the one that
called her the name “Ara”. He was the one that gave the full name Aralola Sherifat.
where? Does he even know the meaning of the name?; it can never be him and it
was never him. It is her brand name from birth.
“The secret lies between the husband
and the wife, it has to do with both of them. If one is a goat the other must
be a sheep. But if the two decides to be goats then they won’t be able to
sustain the wave of the marriage because goats are known for headiness but a
sheep is very calm”.
to do for Ara?
many, so many; I still want her to have more kids not just a kid, may God
provide a good husband for her. I am praying to God to give her a wonderful
husband so that she can add one or two more to her child even if it is just one
and God should promote her career and prolong her life that I won’t cry over
her and her siblings. Both the elderly and younger ones; Ara brought us lots of
good fortunes because her two younger siblings all boys that I had after her
are all successful. Even her elder sister commissioned her own apartment last
year October. Her immediate younger sibling has also blessed his own property,
so, she is a child that brought us lots of fortune; even the last born is doing
well. Since I had Ara my fortune changed dramatically.
|Alhaja Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika ‘I decided to befriend all my husband’s concubines in order to keep them under watch’|
As a mother and veteran with 40 years
experience in marriage, what do you think is the major problem of today’s
marriages that often go bad a year or six months after the union?
secret lies between the husband and the wife, it has to do with both of them.
If one is a goat the other must be a sheep. But if the two decides to be goats
then they won’t be able to sustain the wave of the marriage because goats are
known for headiness but a sheep is very calm. So, one must be a goat while the
other should be a lamb; that is how a marriage can be peaceful, even my own
case is a classical example. If you marry a bank manager in our own days, you
must braze up your wrapper and be vigilant because even if your husband refuses
to chase women, women will chase him. Because they will need to borrow money
from the bank and it is the bank manager that is going to be their target. So,
they must do everything to make him yield to their demands. My husband used to
tell me as a young banker that any man or woman that enters his office with
heavy fragrance on their body, my
husband will say ‘ah, you have already failed with your juju today’ (Laughter),
he said there is nothing such a person maybe looking for he wont give the
person. So, I had to call his attention to the fact that, it is not always the
way he sees it because my husband doesn’t use perfume. And I said ‘me, I use
perfume o and if I go seeking help at my own office is it good that they start
thinking I have laced the perfume with juju? I said it doesn’t matter and that
was how my husband changed his attitude towards perfume users. So, in one word,
it is all about patience.
Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika ‘The man that will marry my daughter must be
able to bear her schedule and tolerate her excesses’
So, how did you cope with women around
your husband, women who tried chasing him as a bank manager?
diplomacy, I was very diplomatic with them; some I draw nearer and take
whatever they have; if she is more blessed than me, I will befriend her and
take from her.
mean getting female admirers of your husband closer?
can’t afford to fight such women because if you turn it into a war and chase
her away, what if they meet behind and she eventually sacks you. so, it is
better we are friends so that I will be able to be getting something from such
a person but unfortunately women of today don’t have that kind of patience and
diplomacy to run their marriage. They will rather cause the whole thing to end
abruptly and in most cases they end up losing the man. You don’t fight your
husband over a woman and remain the same afterwards.
40 years romance with your husband?
first secret is patience; the second secret is patience and the last secret is
patience, patience and contentment.
|Alhaja Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika ‘Wale Akinboboye told my daughter I was a witch and would not allow her to progress’|
You earlier said you want Aralola to
remarry and have more children; if the father of her only child comes begging
and seeking for her heart in a re-union, would you allows him to marry her
for a while) Hmmm! If not that he has gone ahead to enmesh himself in various
acts of infidelity, I will pardon him and let him return. I hope you
understand. Since Ara left him, he has married three different women and raised
kids through them; so, what is my daughter going to do with such a man? If that
didn’t happen or if it was just one, but three women at a stretch and you know
ladies of nowadays are terrible. They are really terrible and can go to any length
to get something done. I can’t advise Ara to go back to him. That will be
an impossible task; if it was just one lady that bore him a child, it is easy
because he is a Muslim and we are equally Muslims and there is nothing extra
ordinary in this world than love. But with three different women who already
had issues for him, Ara cannot
return there again.
|Alhaja Olamuyiwa to Asabeafrika ‘They told my daughter I was disturbing her career’|
What are the attributes of the man
that will marry your daughter, what do you expect from such a man?
man that can exercise patience with her, especially with her kind of job
because not every independent minded man will tolerate her kind of work, she is
a musician, an entertainer. She could be here today and there tomorrow. So, it
is only a man that can bear her schedule that can marry her.
word of advice especially as she clocks 40?
am happy and my prayer for them is that God will open a new way for them and
that way that has been opened will not be closed against them. They should keep
supporting her and keep blessing her work and God will never let them down in
any way. God loves them all. Ara
loves them all.