Motivational

Rule 100: Cultivate the friendship and approval of your colleagues

January 2, 2017

Governor Of Lagos State, Akinwunmi Ambode

If
you follow all the rules outlines in this book you will be a thoroughly nice
person, likeable, confident; agreeable and assured. You will be grown up but still a lot of fun
to be around. You need the support of
your fellow co-workers to get on and you need their friendship and
approval.

If you don’t have these
things, you open yourself up to the possibility of being stitched up, pulled
down, dumped upon or seen off. But how
do you cultivate their friendship and approval when you are doing everything to
get promoted above them, to be their boss?

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What
you have to do is be one of the lads/laddettes while retaining a modicum of
detachment. You have to run with the
sheep and hunt with the wolves. You have to be ‘one of them’ and one
of the bosses.

You’ll
need to socialize with the staff without losing control, getting drunk,
sleeping with any of them or getting involved.
Laugh at their jokes, but don’t go on holiday with them. Listen to their troubles but don’t tell them
they are trivial or inconsequential.
Support them and nurture them when they are under pressure but remain calm
at all times yourself. You have to
become their mother hen at the same time as their friend and fellow
conspirator. You have to listen to their
complaints and moans about management and the boss without revealing who you
really are – their eventual new boss.

“You have to help
them with their work so they get to rely on you. You have to be the diplomat, the conciliator,
the referee, the pal and the priest. You
have to get them to love you because you are so nice, so friendly yourself”.

You
have to help them with their work so they get to rely on you. You have to be the diplomat, the conciliator,
the referee, the pal and the priest. You
have to get them to love you because you are so nice, so friendly yourself.

You
have to be their tower of strength and their prop and their chum. You have to make them feel special, feel that
without you their lives are grey and dull and boring. You have to be the life and soul of the party
and the party organizer and the one who clears up afterwards.

All
this is possible, not easy but possible.
If you get on the right side of your colleagues to such an extent, it
will be them who push you forward, them what that want you to be their boss,
demand of you that you lead. You will be
the Rules
Player par excellence.

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