Motivational

Rule 32: Don’t bitch

August 17, 2016

Famous Nigerian Nollywood Actress, Mide-Funmi Martins

Yep,
life ain’t fair. Sometimes colleagues
shirk and you end up with extra work; bosses can be ill prepared for their jobs
and as such are incompetent and often inconsistent; idiots get promoted all
around you; there’s too much work to do; there are too many stupid systems in
place; idiots thwart you at every turn.
It’s true, life’s a bitch.

Now
tell me how moaning helps in any of these scenarios. Tell me how moaning will change one single
thing. It won’t. It doesn’t. Moaning is a time wasting device invented by
sad people who haven’t enough work to do.
And they’re usually the ones standing next to the ones gossiping. They
may even be the same ones – chances are they are. And when they’ve finished having a good moan,
they’ll have a good gossip.

“Moaning
is a time wasting device invented by sad people who haven’t enough work to
do. And they’re usually the ones standing
next to the ones gossiping”

Moaning
is pointless. It is unproductive and
achieves nothing. All it does is:

·
Identifies
you as idle, petty, trivial

·
Encourages
you to turn the corners of your mouth down – not attractive.

·
Wastes
time

·
Makes
you a magnet for other moaners

·
Gets
you a reputation as someone who doesn’t offer anything productive or helpful.

·
De-motivates
you and set up a vicious circle.

So,
what are you going to do if you are a habitual moaner? Easy, make sure that whenever you do moan you
make yourself offer a solution to whatever it is you are moaning about. If you can’t see a solution you aren’t
allowed to moan. Try that for a few weeks and you’ll stop moaning quite naturally.

“MOANING IS
POINTLESS. IT IS UNPRODUCTIVE AND
ACHIEVES NOTHING”.

Bitching
about others invariably takes place behind their backs. Next time you feel the need for a good bitch
about someone make yourself go and do it to their face. If they aren’t present in the room, don’t do
it. Simple rule but it works. Once they
are there you’ll stop bitching, it’s too hard to keep doing it when you’ve
upset everyone in the office. If you’ve
got something to say, say it to their face (but do see the introduction to this
rule first – Shut up! if you can’t say anything nice).

(Excerpts from THE
RULES OF WORK by Richard Templer Read “How to Stand for others” from The
Rules tomorrow on Asabeafrika)

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