Moneywise 22: How to separate yourself for breakthrough

Celebrity blogger Gbenga Dan Asabe & Ex-Nigerian Sports Minister, Bolaji Abdulahi
My Mentor
excused himself to freshen up while Dele and I used the opportunity of
his absence to reflect deeply on the steps to financial freedom he shared with
us. It was clear that getting to work out the steps would take some time. We
were still on this when he came back and started to talk again.

“My friends, what I have just shared with you are
all you need to work out your financial freedom but only if you are willing to
pay the price. My advice is that you take some time out and separate yourself
to work out the steps. This is the starting point actually. You need the
separation session to work out your financial miracle. All the successful
people I have either met or read about take this aspect very seriously. This is
the stage at which the intellectual and the spiritual aspects of this exercise
fuse. Bill Gates, one of the world’s
richest men, goes to one of the Oriental countries once in a year for a
separation session, to receive fresh instructions and flow of ideas from Divine
Intelligence. Our Lord Jesus Christ had to go into the wilderness for forty
days to receive instructions for his earthly mission. Without the inspiration
that flowed into Him during this period, it would have been difficult to make
much impact”.


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Learning more about a Separation Session
 “So, a
separation session is vital if you want to achieve the steps I have articulated
in the guide to financial freedom. Without that I would suggest that you don’t
embark on implementing the financial freedom plan”.
“The main goal of a planned, prolonged quiet time or
a separation session, if you like, is to enable you to recharge your system for
better performance thereafter. This is the rationale. When you truly work, you
continuously give out of yourself. A separation session is a way of drawing
back into yourself life’s spiritual force. Working continuously without regular
separation sessions is an open invitation to multiple crises. But unfortunately
for most of us, our days are full of activities without quality progress. We
wake up very early in the morning, jump on the road, chat idly with friends,
bury ourselves in activities and eventually retire in the night too tired to
plan for the next day, for the next week, for the next month and for the next
year. No time for relaxation. No time to play with family. And unfortunately,
we are also too busy to hear from God. This is where the seed of crisis is
usually sown”
He
paused and waited for us to fully take in his words.

“What are my dreams? What is my area of
assignment? What would I like to achieve if money is not going to be a problem?
What resources do I have to achieve my dreams? Who do I know that can work with
me to achieve my dreams? What skills do I need to develop to achieve my dreams?
What are the likely obstacles that may stand in the way? What are the
milestones that would remind me if I am moving towards achieving my dreams?
What are the motivations for striving to achieve my dreams?”

How to Plan for a Separation Session
Have a focus. “First,
before you embark on a separation session determine very clearly what issue or
challenge you want to tackle. Don’t take along with you so many issues;
otherwise you may not achieve much. Since this is your first time, I suggest
you use the separation session to develop a personal plan for yourself. Use the
period to work out how you will achieve all the dreams and goals you listed in the
steps I have explained to you. I also suggest you use the time to set goals in
these areas: finance, spiritual, health, career and family. That was what I did
after my Mentor had shared his experience with me. Use such occasions to
reflect on your personal purpose and mission on this planet earth. The issue at
stake is beyond money”.
As Bishop David Oyedepo once said:
“If you make prosperity your main goal, you are
likely to end in abject poverty, but make posterity your focus and you are set
for breakthrough in all areas of your life, prosperity inclusive.
How true! You may discover that you have
been doing what God has not called you to do. You may need to change career
quickly after such sessions. In developing your personal mission, you may
consider using the following theme questions: What are my dreams? What is my
area of assignment? What would I like to achieve if money is not going to be a
problem? What resources do I have to achieve my dreams? Who do I know that can
work with me to achieve my dreams? What skills do I need to develop to achieve
my dreams? What are the likely obstacles that may stand in the way? What are
the milestones that would remind me if I am moving towards achieving my dreams?
What are the motivations for striving to achieve my dreams? What are my
strategies for achieving the goals I have set for myself? Ask other probing
questions. Answers to these questions may lead you to develop a good draft that
can be worked eventually into a plan”.
Plan for it. “Also,
you’ need to plan for the separation session. Look for good books and cassettes.
Interact with people who have gone through similar exercises. Assemble all the
materials you may need for the exercise, including all the steps we have
treated so far. Spend about a week or two to prepare. If you have a lap-top, I
suggest you take it along.
Be quiet, in and out. Furthermore, study to be
quiet, internally and externally. This is where adequate preparation comes in.
I have found that you can be in a quiet environment, but inside there may be a
lot of noise, technically referred to as a psychological noise. For instance,
some people may get to the venue of the separation session only to be
preoccupied with routine affairs of life. This is the time they would remember
that they have not paid the children’s school fees that they did not close
their windows that they did not put off the gas cylinder, etc. In this state,
concentration is difficult and it may be preferable to pack your materials and
go back to your house because you cannot achieve quality results. The message
is that not only must you maintain quietness externally; you must also shut off
your mind from distractions”.
Don’t over eat. “Moreover, eat very moderately throughout the separation session. You
don’t have to fast. And if you have to fast, I suggest you do that a few days
before you go for the separation session. In my own case, I eat once a day and
drink freshly squeezed juice for the rest of the day.
 Furthermore,
for best results a minimum of three days and a maximum of ‘one week is recommended.
Use the first day to read listen to tapes and reflect generally. You may not
write anything down in the first day. Use the first day also to structure your
schedule for the following day. Between the second and the third days, you
should be able to come up with a document that you can perfect over the next
few months. By extension, if you are married, I suggest you may go along with
your spouse or go it alone first before accommodating your spouse. In my own
case, I went alone first, before taking my wife along”.
“Finally, after the first session, cultivate the
habit of going on a separation session without fail once a month. Use this
period to draw up strategy to achieve your plans.
It was during my separation session that I developed
a 58- page personal plan that has served as a road map for everything I do. My
daily activities are drawn from the plan. I look into the plan every week for
new insights. I have shared these tips with a few friends and colleagues who
have used them with astounding testimonies. Let me, however, warn that if you
do it the way it should be done, you are likely to offend some people. In my
own case, after preparing my personal plan, it became obvious that I had to cut
off from some friends who no longer fitted into my circle of influence. It was
painful, but I had to let go. You may also notice that some people may label
you as arrogant, because you may no longer allow them to disrupt your schedules”.
“Let me leave
you with this line from Mike Murdock: ‘Stop frantic push for success. Take time to taste the present. The
fire of desire will always rage within you. You must dominate the rage and
focus it’ A separation session would help you do just that.
(Excerpts from
the book: “THE MILLIONAIRES CAPSULES” by AYO AROWOLO. Read “How to Prepare your Personal
Financial Statement”
tomorrow on this blog)
Ayo Arowolo, Publisher The Millionaires’ Capsules

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