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So,
they’re all going to the wine bar again this lunchtime. You hate that. You hate the smoke, the noise, the inane
chatter about last night’s TV.
they’re all going to the wine bar again this lunchtime. You hate that. You hate the smoke, the noise, the inane
chatter about last night’s TV.
But
do you tell them this? No, you do
not. You need to be one of the crowds—blend
in. You need them to think you’re there,
in spirit if not in body, without actually being there. Easy. You get out of it
by saying you have to do some shopping, visit a friend, or go to the gym.
do you tell them this? No, you do
not. You need to be one of the crowds—blend
in. You need them to think you’re there,
in spirit if not in body, without actually being there. Easy. You get out of it
by saying you have to do some shopping, visit a friend, or go to the gym.
Don’t
disapprove of the way they spend their lunch break – this will make them think
of you as an outsider. Nor do you tell them you’re staying in the office to
catch up on some work – they will think you are a creep. But it is fine to say you are going to do
some shopping and then find somewhere nice to park up in your car with a soft
drink and a decent sandwich – and your laptop.
You can get all that extra work done but you don’t have to let them
know.
disapprove of the way they spend their lunch break – this will make them think
of you as an outsider. Nor do you tell them you’re staying in the office to
catch up on some work – they will think you are a creep. But it is fine to say you are going to do
some shopping and then find somewhere nice to park up in your car with a soft
drink and a decent sandwich – and your laptop.
You can get all that extra work done but you don’t have to let them
know.
Don’t
tell them that you think drinking at lunchtime is unhealthy and unproductive –
tell them you’ll be along in a bit and to carry on without you– ‘get one in for me’. This way, the
lunchtime crowd will accept you as ‘one
of them’ without you ever having
to be one. You will be accepted if you
don’t disapprove.
tell them that you think drinking at lunchtime is unhealthy and unproductive –
tell them you’ll be along in a bit and to carry on without you– ‘get one in for me’. This way, the
lunchtime crowd will accept you as ‘one
of them’ without you ever having
to be one. You will be accepted if you
don’t disapprove.
“By ignoring it is
easier to stop making judgments. If you
make judgments you categorize yourself and thus make it much more difficult to
be flexible and to move easily from situation to situation. By judging others
you, in turn, get pigeon-holed yourself – not a good place to be”.
Or
perhaps they all go bowling together on a Tuesday evening. No, you don’t say ‘but bowling is for geeks
isn’t it?’ Instead you can say, ‘ah, Tuesday evenings? That’s my night for taking my mother to the
cinema I’m, afraid’. Or how about
you swallow your pride, your standards and your disapproval – and actually
go. Who knows, maybe you’ll have
fun. But you will blend in and you won’t
show that you disapprove of your colleagues. Smart move.
perhaps they all go bowling together on a Tuesday evening. No, you don’t say ‘but bowling is for geeks
isn’t it?’ Instead you can say, ‘ah, Tuesday evenings? That’s my night for taking my mother to the
cinema I’m, afraid’. Or how about
you swallow your pride, your standards and your disapproval – and actually
go. Who knows, maybe you’ll have
fun. But you will blend in and you won’t
show that you disapprove of your colleagues. Smart move.
How
others spend their leisure time, their money or their lives is no concern of
yours. The smart mover concentrates on
their own part and ignores the route others choose to take. Keep focused on where you are going and
ignore anything others are up to. By
ignoring it is easier to stop making judgments.
If you make judgments you categorize yourself and thus make it much more
difficult to be flexible and to move easily from situation to situation. By judging
others you, in turn, get pigeon-holed yourself – not a good place to be.
others spend their leisure time, their money or their lives is no concern of
yours. The smart mover concentrates on
their own part and ignores the route others choose to take. Keep focused on where you are going and
ignore anything others are up to. By
ignoring it is easier to stop making judgments.
If you make judgments you categorize yourself and thus make it much more
difficult to be flexible and to move easily from situation to situation. By judging
others you, in turn, get pigeon-holed yourself – not a good place to be.
(Excerpts from THE
RULES OF WORK by Richard Templer Read “Knowing how to understand the herds mentality” from The Rules tomorrow on Asabeafrika)
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